Being Happy, Feeling Good

 Being Happy, Feeling Good

“Going from Clinical Depression to Having the Midas Touch in Your Regal Life!”

a massive, original article by ♥cherry at RousingVenus.co.cc

(not to be re-sold or used for profit without explicit consent given from the author, cherry, at www.rousingvenus.co.cc)

This is my first article in what is surely to be a series of premium, downloadable content.

(i was originally going to let this go for from $3-$5, but i feel too inspired to share. click "go on" below..) 

productivity while walking the black dog.

i like smiling.

Sir Winston Churchill really has my heart, as he is noted for not only suffering with depression, but also for being a remarkable person despite still having to do what he called "walking the black dog."

if you know anything about me, there are some things that appear at the forefront: i'm quite tiny. i have a weird attraction to wigs when my real hair can be glamorous. i draw on my eyebrows with expertise. i love animals and books to the extreme. i have tried to dislike the color pink to avoid its connotations and failed time and time again. did i already mention my book collection?.. you should really see it; it really is impressive and pretty cool, too!..

what is also probably the saddest attribute that any living person can unfortunately find themselves expressing is that of depression--and that has been my tragedy for more than half of my life. depression is an umbrella term spanning an entire, gloomy spectrum of what in many cases becomes an all-too-real "disability" even. it really irks me when my own mother wasn't approved for Social Security benefits for her debilitating battle with depression that was handicapping her, and inhibiting her experiencing life. it is very much a "disorder." you cannot just "snap out of it." would someone who is autistic or M.R. be told to just "get over" their mental condition? not at all. and believe you me, i've run the gamut of trying to leave my dark secret behind, trying to forget it, only to be reminded that i am only human, and even if i am wearing Wonder Woman panties, i still need some help from time to time.

the reality here in our time-space experience is that even those afflicted with a mental condition such as depression can find themselves being swept up by the tides of an overwhelming and very consuming force of today's demanding life. the world does not stop turning and rotating, the days just keep coming, opportunities do not wait, and nothing is owed to you, or even offered your way very easily. and those who are not in a healthy state of mind, and who honestly cannot help that about themselves, often find themselves conquered and run over by this bittersweet run of progressing life. it can be so utterly painful that your feelings become even too sore for tears. and i won't even mention the darkest sides of this pain--the places that can lead to self-medicating, drug abuse, self-harm, and suicide. i'll only say that i have been blessed to find myself on the opposite side of this scale for the most part--no matter how much i have found myself hurting. yes, hand clap to myself! APPLAUSE!

and while i still have to work to not succumb to my lurking, dark feelings threatening to pull me under, i've realized that in order to really do this thing called living, i had take full responsibility for my experience here on Earth no matter what hand i have been dealt. i am not the only woman, by far, who has to carry some less-than-splendid loads around with her for much of her life. and in my recognizing this and my pockets being empty from my break from working, i just HAD to get back on the horse. nothing was being handed to me, everyone else had their own crises to contend with, and i had so much that i genuinely wanted to acquire for my life to make it all worthwhile. heh--i was still very sick and i had to get a job, all while walking that black dog of mine.

i had been working full-time (even in high school) because my mother is a disabled nurse who cannot provide as she used to, and because i'm a grown-ass woman who contributes when she can! with my little brothers in school, it's usually me who doing to providing. lots of people don't know this about me! my life is not all magick spells and love stories! it gets quite hard at times... and there are several valuable life lessons that i have learned about staying afloat from my full past of work experience. it has helped me stay afloat not only at different businesses, but also just from the day-to-day pulling of life's currents.

1. the reason people work is largely because they "have to." it's hardly ever falls to what is the easiest, most desirable thing. if you start to look at life as being full of things that you "have to" contend with, then it becomes easier to digest: you "have to" get out of bed and go about doing things. you really "have to" shower and take care of yourself. you "have to" be alive and here right now for whatever worthwhile reasons that keep you going. and it's very important that you find those reasons!
2. it gets easier with practice. remember how good you got at your last job after only a couple of weeks following the routine? remember how nervous you were on your first day compared to your feeling of relaxed expertise that you had later? life works exactly like that to. put in the time and the effort, and your progress will become apparent to you and those around you. and it gets easier, and it gets to feeling good!
3. distractions are lovely. anything to get you out of your mind in such  robotic, monotonous ways is such a relief! at my desk job, i had framed pictures of my family and my dumb-ass friends. i always used a pretty, pink pen. i loved to surround myself with live flowers and bright colors to remind myself of beautiful things which exist in abundance in our wide world, if i only took it upon myself to look. you can do this with the rest of your life too--spruce it up. inject your life with some vitality. we all know that just because you're alive, doesn't mean that you're living. research some new music. buy some chic clothes from the thrift store. start a walking circle in your neighborhood. get in your car and drive around town for no reason other than seeing the scenery outside and to be seen out in the world! i call this phenomenon "ornamenting" you life. light it up like Xmas lights. flash, flash, motherfuckers.
4. it all goes on, and you have to get what you can acquire. at work, it's a paycheck, or a check and tips for me right now. my job doesn't need me or owe me anything, however. i am putting myself in the situation to where i can benefit. i want the money and benefits, so i offer my labour. the job doesn't need me and will go on if i never show my face on there again--i can be replaced. it's rather harsh, but living is a lot like that too. the world's only job is to go on. it doesn't have to shine a ray of light only onto you. if you sleep your life away in bed, the seasons keep coming. there is however some beauty to this which makes for one amazingly bittersweet experience. LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL. we have all of the power in the world only over ourselves. we can choose to restrain ourselves just as easily as choosing our freedom. we can live while choosing to remain open to the beautiful, wonderful things that life can send in our direction. and the more of this you notice, the more it occurs. we can love as much as we can (which is an infinite amount), and harness the greatest power in the world! this alone, actually, is the purpose of life to many religious groups for plenty good reason. while harnessing love, all of the power in the world belongs to you. the more love you emit, the more your own, personal life is nourished and the more beautiful your own experience becomes. try to make your life as brilliant as it can possibly be... it's all up to you to choose that path--depression, mania, OCD, autism, whatever. now that feels good.

the bottom line is that at the end of it all, what you get out of your experience is only ever up to you. if you have a crappy life, you really can only blame yourself. it is never your parents' or your ex boyfriend's fault. conditions and environments are not your prison. they are a given. make your circumstances a springboard! and if it's any help, think of all of the other people who are on a similar journey and who have not given up, like me! give yourself a reason to smile again. of course the work begins inside, and it truly does get better the more you do it. and doctors and medications do have their very important place in the scheme of things, just as they do with any other condition/ailment/affliction/boo-boo. always be the first to help yourself, and other things follow accordingly. i promise!

love and love and LOVE,

ringing in two-thousand-and-heaven.

sxc.hu

1. there's nothing more important than that you feel very, very good.
2. you get what you feel, not what you think. you can say the most positive things and wear the most convincing fake smiles, but when you look around at your life, it's reminding you of what is real. and feelings are what make anything real. heal your heart, if you do nothing else. fix it and feel very GOOD genuinely, despite everything.
3. we've got so much freedom; we can actually choose to inhibit ourselves! it's always personal; no one does the job for you.
4. the joy is in the journey, not just the destination. be happy in now, while later approaches. don't terminate the experience!
5. smile a lot. even forcing one makes you feel better, and this alone has immeasurable value.
6. stay grateful for the things that you love now to ensure that they are always there.
7. there's absolutely nothing wrong with daydreaming.
8. meditation is truly a lovely thing for many, many reasons. anything that gets you out of your head is so relieving. 
9. always aim for the better and better feeling thoughts until it is a habit for you. your neighbors will get sick of seeing you smile and your cheeks will ache!
10. i'll never stop saying it--life isn't happening to you; it's following you. make it worth your time. make it feel good. 

my holiday present to you.

i'm quite resourceful, and i'm always full of brilliant news to share with my friends. i'm so thrilled about this one--i might have outdone myself here! this is even an unimaginable very-much-desired gift for myself! i hope that any of you can find enjoyment from it (and if you can understand its worth, you surely can, and WILL)!


i'm a Deliberate Creator: i design my life. you've heard me say it that life is not happening to me, but FOLLOWING me. i study and follow the Law of Attraction and work to manifest my own desires into my life for the joy of it. Advice to Deliberate Creators is a book being shared across the Web among fellow seekers, and even those just beginning to take the trip inside to this personal, magickal world. i refer to the practice of this substance in excess, and there are innumerable references sprinkled throughout my posts. but i have not gone about explicitly teaching and outlining this precious and beneficial approach to enjoying life like never before. this book seems to be a handy jewel of an inspirational tool and resource full of advice to remember when anyone goes about the work of manifestation via the Law of Attraction.

in other words, perfect the art of manifesting and getting exactly what you want to be, do, and have in your life through this ancient Universal Law! read this book, take notes, and study how to get your Loves to rendezvous with you as mine do with me! i'm definitely beginning to read it now. it's a wonderful, free resource, and i very much recommend it being a beginning step towards making magick with your own life. do look into it and let me know all of the wonderful things that you create and manifest for yourself!

• here's a "Sneak Peek" at some of the treasures waiting freely within for you to indulge in:

1. Notice when you feel good and realize the more you appreciate those moments the more they will occur. 

2. See what it takes to make yourself feel good again and learn to do that more and more and easier and easier. 

3. Not feeling good can mean so many good things. Let go of those moments softly and gently, they are there to teach. 

4. The universe is fully intent on you, loves you and supports you right or wrong (if there is wrong). Think of it as an intimate friend that grants wishes. 

5. You will change; go through stages-because of this. Immerse yourself in loving yourself unconditionally and be with those who also love you no matter what.  

-- Brian

• read/get/download it (freely!) HERE! Happy Holidays! go ahead and share it yourself; keep the positive energy cycling!

sources: The Good Vibe Blog

cast your own love spell!

sxc.hu, as ever.

About the Magick
but, DO put down your magick wand (unless you happen to just adore it that much; it will not be necessary for today's lesson). and put away the picture of your ex who is currently dating that ugly "handsome" lady. the love spell that cherry only ever means is the type that sends YOU swooning! hold a minute--i'm having my coffee, and i'll make clear of myself.

you've heard it all before from every prophet seated in every theology. you've heard it from laymen. but Love is the greatest force in the world. it is a True Energy, like the frequencies of color and sound. it moves in waves and currents, like maritime tides and the phases of the moon. poetically digressed by yours truly, but there isn't a doubt in your pretty little head as to this, is there? the sad fact is that all too many people are unawares of the connection between wielding this force, and effectively implementing it within their own experience to change their lives for the better. but, boy, are you ever lucky that you are friends with me: it's a recent lifestyle choice of mine, and it has made worlds of difference to me. Hell, Love is the actual power that has indeed created worlds, like ours. it is THE raison d'etre (reason of being).

when any of us feels the emotion of Love, with the tingling in our tummies, the pounding of our hearts, the lightness of our spirit, we are harnessing this most powerful force. correctly manipulated, Love is the one magick power that each of us is bestowed with that can take our lives from where they are currently, to new and infinitely higher states of elevated bliss--because, right, you guessed it; we each have an infinite supply of Love to give.

the Universal Law of Love states that: Life is not "happening" to you, but following you! And that which you emit is returned to you in like measure. so look around at your life. it is only ever a perfect picture of the Love (or lack of Love) that you have been emitting to the Universe to pick up on.

think on things that you Love, and appropriate and equal conditions rise up to meet you in your personal life. like begets like. stay "stuck on stupid" and indulge in depression, negativity, pessimism, etc--and you already know what happens. your life always mirrors what you have programmed it to. i can never stress it enough: but, your thoughts and feelings are very important. you can literally train your mind... it's like the clearing away of the static on your old television set for a clearer picture. simply stated: think on the things that you love that are in your current reality (and actually physically feel this immense power in your body), and the things that you Love are augmented into your life experience (the static clears away for you to get a better and more satisfying picture of what your life really is). think on things that you Love which are not yet a reality... and they will begin to appear in your picture (even MORE static clears, and you'll look on in amazement as the picture changes in a multitude of ways--according to your own desires of what you Love, and right before your eyes)! how exciting!

Casting the Spell
here's some homework for you. it is to be done for a period of at least a week (seven days without Love makes one weak).

• AM -- before you rise, mentally catalogue ALL of the things in your life that you Love and that you feel very thankful for. try to aim to keep this going for several minutes, until you feel that familiar and delicious sensation in your body (tummy tingling, fluttering heart, warm bliss) that lets you know that you are feeling pure, undiluted Love. extra points if you find beautiful tears in your eyes! rise up to meet your day, recalling that feeling at different points throughout your day to keep it active (and thus wielding power) in your mind. and smile! it feels good, doesn't it?

• PM -- right before you go to sleep, your body should be feeling very heavy and relaxed. make sure that you are still very conscious though, so that you can execute your homework! think about all of the things that you would Love to be included in your life that are not yet a reality. this may take some imagination, so practice for as long as it takes. imagine yourself having the desires of your heart in your life right now, and try very hard to physically feel the Love in your body as if it were real and already true. the Universe cannot tell if you are playing pretend, or not; it will deliver the same! when you are done, brainstorm ways that you can achieve this same feeling in the next day about your desires, even if you might not have them yet (although the Universe may surprise you and give your desires to you immediately! it has happened before!). do you have to remove some negative programming in your emotions and thoughts? must you meditate for 15 minutes each day as i do? do you have to avoid some (or alot of harmful) people? do it. your emotional health is very important, because it is the sole force that you can directly use to consistently and easily direct your life. 

keep this up for a week, and i promise that you will feel alot happier and alot more free.it's good for you! even buy a journal and choose to write down your reflections, if you're visually-minded. writing is a very good way to direct thoughts and to focus. i do it all of the time before i meditate, and such. and DO let me know what "pops up into your picture." i can't wait to hear about the experiences of my friends casting their very own Love Spells over their lives! i'll be here to rendezvous with you at that next time, mes cheres! 

with Love, as ever--cherry.

"Be careful of your moods and feelings, for there is an unbroken connection between your feelings and your visible world." --Neville Goddard

fragile x, autism, high.

this is just a random emission of mine. born from a conversation i had yesterday from an old friend:

i was talking to an acquaintance from my old university on instant messenger yesterday and my mind played over all of my concerns, ideas, and opinions of this man. i've always considered him to be spacey and even dense. he was unattractively goofy in his mannerisms. he had slight speech problems and was really S-L-O-W to speak and react. his excuse was that he was just being chill. to my knowledge, he didn't do drugs--BUT his eyes always seemed glazed over and had no real focus. he would just gaze into space as if nothing was really there. he would blink like he was constantly waking up from a dream.definitely a goofy spazz of a person.

don't get me wrong, this guy wasn't retarded. he was an engineering major at school. but today i was so perplexed as to his "problem," or just him being him, and i Googled a possible explanation.

Fragile X Syndrome causes symptoms similar to autism:

• Mental retardation
• Tendency to avoid eye contact
• Hyperactive behavior
• Large forehead or ears with a prominent jaw

also, the affected men have atypical social development (i just thought the guy was weird for no reason), shyness, strange vocalization (high pitch, weird sounds, cluttering of words, and strange facial expressions. heh. my acquaintance exhibits all of these things!

but then again, he probably did use drugs (or used drugs as well as being affected by FXS, which would only amplify his condition).

so: Fragile X Syndrome, Autism, or Stoner (a big possibility considering his social crowd)? my mind is enjoying wrapping itself around this. damn, am I a carrier?! are you?

all about vag.

now, take a moment to recover from your awkward feelings, because i'm going to make it worse very soon.

as a future gynecologist / obstetrician and superstar women's rights activist, i'm pretty passionate about the vagina--the whole vulva and mons pubis, actually. i'm also very comfortable and open with discussing these things. lots of girls feel an unavoidable embarrassment when just the word "vagina" is mentioned. me--i use it everyday. sometimes overly so. "oh, my vagina is happy like from the Vagina Monologues!"

female genitalia are not treated fairly! boys get to touch and familiarize themselves with their parts daily when they piss from the youngest of ages. they even give their parts nicknames, like Peter and such, and this is considered normal. it's nearly a crime that ladies don't accept this privilege. we are raised from birth to be super conservative with the knowledge and love of our bodies. it's OK for fellas to masturbate regularly, but unheard of for ladies to do so too?! a sexist double-standard. hello! some girls don't even know the different names for parts of their sexuality, thus are not fully knowledgeable of their own bodies! how can you expect such a lady to then take proper care of herself and make developed and informed decisions?! a crime, if you ask me. please, please, please tell me that you at least know where your clitoris is, and that this tiny part of yourself houses a crap-ton more nerves than does a male's entire penis. how's that for female empowerment?!

now back to the photo and making your awkward feelings worse: sadly enough, i used to be self-conscious about the appearance of my down-below region for absolutely no reason. society truly prevents us from accepting the reality that women are real down there and that we all don't look the same. so, to continue the damage to my poor and unsuspecting readers, which photo from above best resembles you? i know someone who's a 25!

some links that i love. please visit! you will thank me!

• The-Clitoris
• All About My Vagina
  

this idea was ripped from the gurl.com relationships and sex message board.

i can help you: EFT

i can help you heal yourself using only one of your hands! really. and it's not even masturbation-related.

the cause of all negative emotion is caused by a disruption of the body's energy systems.

hmm. by accessing the body's energy meridian endpoints, one can self-administer treatment and correct this disruption--kind of like toying with the antennae on my television when the picture is full of static.

whatever? nope. EFT is real. it's founded by a doctor as an alternative form of treatment for all sorts of conditions: depression, weight loss, PTSD, war memories, phobias, and EVERYTHING. it's like acupuncture without the needles. it seems a bit unorthodox, because i'm only familiar with Western medicine, but Asian cultures have been using this subtle, but powerful form of treatment for ages! what's stopping everyone else?

so with Emotional Freedom Technique, veterans of war have been cured of their stress disorders, clinically depressed people have learned to cope naturally when years of meds and therapy have failed, and folks with severe aquaphobia now enjoy beach trips for the swimming? YES! 

"Some day the medical profession will wake up and realize that unresolved emotional issues are the main cause of 85% of all illnesses. When they do, EFT will be one of their primary healing tools .... as it is for me."

- Eric Robins, MD 

it's really simple: all you need is your hand. say an affirmation and follow with a sequence of tapping on various energy endpoints [which are close to the body's surface] and one can witness profound mental AND physical healings immediately. and according to the writer of the official manual, you don't even need to believe that it's working for results to occur!

so call me crazy. "crazy!" and i agree that tapping on my chin, my hand, etc. looks silly and that something as subtle as touch can physically heal people with severe problems seems unrealistic. BUT, i've been trying it regularly now at the urging of a friend and the science has loads of affirmative case studies as proof. there was nothing to lose and in my experience, i've been feeling even more peachy when one of my emotions or problems get to me deeply on rare occasions: anger, fear, insomnia, feeling overwhelmed and tired on Monday mornings.

want to try it? go to the official website, download the 80 page manual, watch the videos, teach yourself and study the science, do your research... there's nothing to lose. you can tap about anything. and who knows?.. you could really be doing something nothing short of amazing for improving your already royal life! if you have success [or any type of experience for that matter] i'd love to hear about it! please drop me a line!

for the impatient who would rather just dive right in, here is another link to tempt you: EFT on a Page. good luck.
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and PS--i got hired today!!! thanks to my fiance's sister [my sister now too], i've got a new job downtown! i've just finished with my RCIA meeting [to help in my decision to convert to Catholicism], and my hair is full of beautiful curls. today has been SO peachy!

ciao.

blog promotion for prostitutes and rockstars.

as a self-proclaimed blogging connoisseur, as proved by an existence in the Blogosphere since the mid 90s, i'm going to have so much fun with this post: i remember back, at least a decade ago, to my early days of internet whoring.. my own hosted website at an emo-named domain, LiveJournal and OpenDiary have been the instruments of my crime and vanity. my classmates and i had a circle of our vapid overshares in online diary form because we were just so cool. i've read and commented on drug abuse, oral sexin' of boyfriends, beer bashes, debates on how punk the band AFI really was / is, and other  components in the Wasteland of Teenage Angst.

as i got older and the threat of jailtime as well as permanent reputation harm became more real, i matured and formed a more purposeful vision for blogging. i got diagnosed with clinical depression and contemplated my stability online for my own welbeing, sans too many description of sexual encounters, bad music, blue hair dye, and wrist slicing. what i also got interested in was actual promotion. who would have thought that the world was bigger than just myself?! while my classmates were a supportive and depressing audience, i knew that my real friends lived in the computer, states, and even countries, away. how did i reach out to them?

• the gURL.com messageboards has a nice community of ladies who would love to jump on your blog posts if you return the favor. don't forget a shameless and artistic plug in your signature complete with a kissy picture of you and your boyfriend / girlfriend!
• if you're really vain, head to Plugboard.org and link your space with a cute button
• leave comments on other folks' blogs, network, be vain and cool
• join webrings, blog carnivals, etc.
• read some articles from Miss Gala Darling twice
• how to make money from your blog and why to never get a job
• Problogger.net, enough said
  

good luck! and if you become a millionaire celebrity with tons of readers, send me a nice thank you note!